Assets: our "Super Powers" for creating epic adventures!

Adventures with the Estrogen Army

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    Sue Braiden
    Keymaster

    Intrinsic assets are the Super Powers that equip us to have epic adventures!Exactly what kind of “assets” are we talking about when we want to “build our capacity” to create happy, healthy, epic adventures?

    Your banker might look at assets as the physical resources that define your worth: property, capital, an established client base, and so on.

    We’re going to look at them differently.

    While extrinsic resources — especially the “money” part of things — can certainly ease our way into adventures of all shapes and sizes, the assets that we’re going to focus on here at the lab have more to do with our internal toolkit. They are “a way of being” combined with “character” and “know-how”.

    Intrinsic assets are the tools and resources that equip us to interact in the world. They are personal qualities and strengths we have developed to help us function and navigate in safe and healthy ways. Some we are born with (physical qualities, such as size and strength; or situational, such as family wealth), while others are developed through experiences, practice and choice (things like courage, resilience and integrity).

    Consider these intrinsic assets as a sort of bank account that we can make deposits into to invest in future adventures, and withdrawals from when we launch them. They have tremendous worth. These assets are our “super powers”!

    What assets do we have? What do we want?

    Each of us is equipped with a unique set of assets. With each new adventure, we may find we are called on to meet it with something we feel we don’t have quite enough of yet.

    ↑↑↑ See those linked words up there at the top of this conversation? ↑↑↑ The ones after the word Tagged:

    They are some of the assets that we might like to claim for ourselves.

    Let’s talk about what else you might like to see tucked into this list, and, more importantly, about the assets YOU want to work on next!

    Here’s how …

    So, Adventure Diva, which assets are next? Let’s talk!

    Sue.

  • #1987

    Linda Nowakowski
    Participant

    This is a tough question.

    I have started looking through my “assets” with a different lens lately.

    I think most people think immediately of money when the term assets comes up. I think of financial assets a lot differently now that I am “retired.” With less coming in I have had to make sure that less is going out if I am going to live until I have done all of the things I would like to do. My time in Thailand taught me a lot that made that transition a lot easier.

    Next I think of assets like skills and education. That I have lots of – some would say too much! 😉

    Then there is experience! Whoa. I could fill your server with experience and experiences!

    Most of that doesn’t matter if you have no goal.

    A little over a year ago I moved back to the little town I grew up in. After being gone 45 years I didn’t expect it to be the same. But I was sad to find that the conservative politics was still here in full strength but the friendly, caring community that buffered that was gone. (I have said hello and tried to introduce myself to my neighbors a number of times with NO, nada, zip response. Unfortunately, I learned that it wasn’t worth the effort and disappointment. That response on my part disappointed me. I wanted that warm community back.

    I have spent the last year doing things to try to nurture that with little success.

    • I teach English to Mexican workers and immigrants through the county Literacy program. Those students relationships have been rewarding but the community as a whole doesn’t accept their presence and many don’t appreciate or even want them trying to fit in since they would prefer them gone.
    • I have assembled a small group of people who have been trying to rebuild community ties and we really don’t see any results.
    • I volunteered to teach a class at the library on new forms of gardening that are more environmentally friendly AND require less work. One woman has participated in the last month.
    • I have gotten immersed in a small struggling local congregation and have had more success in strengthening that community but helping it grow is going to require community involvement.

    All of this has let me to working in the church to build something on Eating and Ethics. That has led me someplace I didn’t really expect. As I have started reading about Christian leadership, I have found authors who are helping me understand myself and I find myself looking for servant roles and perhaps more importantly, an understanding of how getting rid of my “Super Powers” image of my assets might just be the problem with me and how I relate to other people. I am beginning to think that my “super power” might be recognizing my own weaknesses.

    I guess I might have developed a new skill in talking in riddles. 😉

  • #1992

    Sue Braiden
    Keymaster

    I am so glad you shared this, Linda! There are so many things that resonate with me on a personal level, that I’ll likely chew on things and come back a few times with thoughts.

    The thing that struck me first was this: the eternal cliché question: can you ever really go home? I have been grappling with the very thing you chose to do. I always thought when I moved away from the little town where I grew up that I would never want to go back, but as I’ve gotten older, I’m finding the pull gets stronger and stronger. What I’m puzzling out right now is whether or not I’m caught in the trap of my own idyllics. Am I romanticizing the memory of where I grew up, and felt safe, and certain of my place in the world? At a time when virtually every single aspect of my life is being turned upside down, by choice, it’s a pretty power compulsion to want to embrace what felt like a more authentic life. I don’t know the answer to that yet.

    You struck a nerve with something else in your “welcome” post when you mentioned yearning to be accepted for who you really are, and boy do I feel motivated by that! I just turned 52, and yet I feel like I spent virtually all of my adult life “play acting”. It’s not that I haven’t enjoyed what I’ve done, or loved much of it, but I realize that my motivations were, in most cases, doing what I thought I was expected to do. Does that quest for authenticity kick in with age, or wisdom, or both, or …? I think that is, ironically, what pulls me back home. The irony is that what I am craving is the memory of a place where people shared my values, and yet the very place that I felt stifled me from being who I thought I really was all those years ago.

    And there’s the rub: what, exactly, is home? Is it a place you go back to? Is it some place new you find where you feel you fit, and it fits? Is it many places that nurture all the shiny parts of you that want to be fed? The people? The experiences? The culture? I feel like if I knew the answer to that, I might be happier somehow, and I guess that it’s really at the heart of what fueled my desire to cultivate the Estrogen Army project.

    While I’m not sure of much, I do feel that part of my own answer lies in pushing myself out of my comfort zone and learning to experience things again, and to be brave. And there’s the other word: courage. It’s “authenticity” and “courage” that always seem to bubble up to the top of my own list when I imagine the intrinsic assets I want most, and I wonder if maybe a lot of other women feel the same thing too.

    Thanks for sharing your own thinking so candidly, Linda. I know I’m likely to come back a few more times as different things you’ve said inspire more “aha!” moments.

    Let’s keep talking!

    Sue.

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