Little altars: what do YOU tuck into your favourite social networking spaces to empower a life of adventure?

Adventures with the Estrogen Army

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  • #1804

    Sue Braiden
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    How often do you find yourself wanting to pull the plug on your favourite digital kitchen tables? Facebook and Twitter can be wonderful ways to connect with kindred souls. They can also become noisy, toxic drains of energy, contentment and peace.

    How do we look at the virtual kitchen tables that we choose to put our elbows on, including the ones we do here, and re-imagine them as the healthy, happy spaces we want them to be?

    I had an “Aha!” moment today. A few things came up on my Facebook feed that lifted me up in a wonderful way. As I was sitting there thinking about it, trying to imagine how I might distill that moment into one of intent, it occurred to me that I try to treat my Facebook wall as a “little altar”: a place to leave gifts for myself, and for my friends to discover, that allow me to invest my energy in ways that uplift and inspire, that invite reflection and action, and that feed my own soul.

    It might be a tiny thing, to simply change the way that we think about our shared virtual playgrounds, but the shift is an important one. Our attitudes drive so much of both our emotional well being, and also our physical health. If we’re going to prepare ourselves to have epic adventures, it makes sense to surround ourselves with the people and things and thoughts that move us forward in significant ways.

    It occurs to me that this is an example of “the positive flip,” something a colleague once taught me to embrace. In a nutshell, it’s the difference between asking “what works?” instead of “what’s broken?”. We tend to see life as a series of problems to be solved, and this “problem addiction loop” comes with a lot of baggage attached. I want to take some time to share a bit more thinking on these two things in a post of their own, because as tools they are very, very empowering.

    When you think about this shift of perspective in the context of how it empowers a life of adventure, it makes a whole lot of sense. We learn the wisdom of packing light; and how jettisoning the heavy baggage frees us up to get off the beaten path, go further and deeper into wonderful places.

    Instead of focusing on the work of the journey, we can simply enjoy the journey itself.

    • What kinds of treasures do you love tucking into your own “little altars”?
    • How do they shape you as a person, as an ally and friend?
    • When you’re thinking about a life of adventure, how can you use them to lead the way?

    Why not tuck a note into the reply field below and tell us about it?

    Sue.

  • #1988

    Linda Nowakowski
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    I have been involved in social networks for a lot of years and have only once had an experience where enjoyment far outweighed disappointment and grief. (I think a number of us here know the network I am referring to.)

    With that one exception I find social networks platforms for trumping and lifting yourself and blasting and putting down others.

    A good social network has to do something together. All social networks break up into embedded smaller social networks. As I think I told you, I gave up Facebook for Lent. Did I miss Facebook? NO! Did I miss some of the smaller social networks embedded in it? YES! With all of the traveling I have done, Facebook is the one place where I can gather with friends from Thailand, Uganda, Europe, the numerous communities I have lived in here in the US,and many of the people I worked with in that other (now defunct) social network.

    I try to stay positive on Facebook but not everyone agrees with what I think is positive and the naysayers kill me. Online social networks create a space where it is easier to be uncivil than try to hold civil, gentle discussions.

    I will be anxious to hear if others have ideas on how to change that.

  • #1993

    Sue Braiden
    Keymaster

    Hey, Linda! I definitely agree with your fondness for the first social network you mentioned. While there is almost always an element of drama with every single community, the premise of that particular one made it not only great heart work, but a magnet for so many natural allies. Boy do I miss it!

    As for Facebook, I also agree. It can be a noisy (sometimes toxic) place to interact, and yet it cuts across virtually every community (geographic, and of interest) that matters to me. Old school friends, better world stuff, business know-how, lifehacks, spirituality in all of it’s forms are certainly there in abundance, and yet the wisdom of unplugging for a time (or maybe permanently, for some, as my daughter chose to do) is both an act of self-preservation and renewal.

    The Estrogen Army project, at it’s core, is built on the deep wish to cultivate a very narrow bandwidth of social networking: bringing together a group of kindred spirits, women over 40, who have perhaps spent their lives being wives, mums, career women, community servants, and more, and are now at a place where they recognize the wisdom of celebrating their own cravings, without that feeling like a selfish act.

    I am always heartened when I see your elbows on any digital kitchen table, because I know that I will come away inspired by your deep sense of self, and your deep devotion to community. So while wanting to share the journey of reinvention, or self-discovery, or simply adventure for adventure’s sake, may seem like a selfish pursuit, I know without a shadow of a doubt that what each of us chooses to give here we will most definitely get back.

    • What kinds of treasures do you love tucking into your own “little altars”?

      For me: stories about the people and things that inspire me!

    • How do they shape you as a person, as an ally and friend?

      When people share something personal and heartfelt, and it resonates with me, I feel a little less alone. Choosing to let go of what has defined much of my life to be more “me” feels very risky. It’s empowering to hear when someone else has “been there, done that”. It makes me feel more brave.

    • When you’re thinking about a life of adventure, how can you use them (social networks/digital kitchen tables) to lead the way?

      I guess I’m a little biased on this one, since the premise of the “Estrogen Army” project starts with the very deep wish to be able to put my elbows on the digital kitchen table with many other inspiring Adventure Divas along the way. We’ll be able to enjoy the gifts of new ideas, resources and kindred spirits, which I really do believe will help us all be brave enough, and well-enough equipped, to go out there and have whatever adventures we want to have, no matter the size.

    Thanks for what you are already investing of yourself here! I’ve spent so much time in the technical trenches trying to get the nuts and bolts in place, that it feels good to finally be able to just put my own elbows here on the table with you, and hopefully many others, as we plot our wild and delicious adventures 🙂

    Let’s keep talking …

    Sue.

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