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Where’s the Beef? (and how a really bad movie can be a really great tool for checking in with yourself)

May 18, 2016 in , , by Sue Braiden

Where's the Beef? (and how a really bad movie can be a really great tool for checking in with yourself)

I’m always on the look-out for good Adventure Diva movies, and when I stumbled across “I’ll See You in My Dreams” on Netflix, I thought I’d found one.

I was wrong.

The premise was a woman named Carol confronting her age, and realizing her life had become predictable and mundane. With a husband who had been dead for twenty-years, and a handful of friends pushing her to get out there and date again (while simultaneously pushing for her to move to a retirement community), Carol is reluctant to change, until a set of chance encounters turns that on it’s head.

So far, so good. Clinging to the familiar and fear of the unknown, even if things have gotten stale, is relatable enough, and I was encouraged by the promise that Carol was about to push way out of her comfort zone and shake things up.

It had potential, until it slid straight into a quagmire of clichés.

I wanted this movie to be great, and while I found it predictable, completely implausible, and definitely disappointing, it served a wonderful purpose: it made me check in with myself every time I complained. If it made me so damned mad, what was it that I thought should have happened instead? I was cheering for these women. I wanted them to be brave. I wanted them to get off their asses and go out there and grab a hold of life and shake the hell out of it.

And that’s what made it great in an unexpected way. Anything that shakes you out of your comfort zone, that gets you questioning what’s important to you, that moves you to want to take a step, make a change, is a tool to be grateful for.

So I ask you, sister Adventure Divas, what is the perfect happy ending? What is it out there in the wild blue yonder that calls to your Adventure Diva soul? What will your life be incomplete without?

What calls you, know matter how crazy it may seem? And more importantly, what’s stopping you?

Let’s put our elbows on the kitchen table and talk about it!

What have you done that took you past your comfort zone?

May 13, 2016 in , , by Sue Braiden

David Bowie on Authenticity. What have YOU done that took you out of your comfort zone?

David Bowie has some gorgeous wisdom about pushing out of your comfort zone. In fact, I took his advice to heart and pushed way outside of my own. (Click through and I’ll tell you a little bit about that, and then I’m going to bust out my magic wand.)

So, Adventure Divas, what have YOU done that took you past your comfort zone? How did it turn out? Was it the kind of “Aha! moment” that makes you want to do it again?

If you haven’t gone there yet, would you like to? What is it that calls to your soul and scares the hell out of you, all at the same time?

Let’s talk! I’ve set a place for you over at the digital kitchen table, and I’m making it my personal mission to be YOUR fairy godmother! I am going to have your back, girl, and together, with a little help from our friends, we’re going to figure out how to have that Adventure that has been calling you too!

Carpe diem, baby!
Sue.

What does an Adventure Diva conquering fear look like?

in , , by Sue Braiden

What does an Adventure Diva conquering fear look like? Kristina Paltén on a 1,144-mile journey of trust.

What does an Adventure Diva conquering fear look like? Kristina Paltén on a 1,144-mile journey of trust. The Swedish ultra-runner began her run through Iran on August 29th 2015. She was to become the first woman ever to cross Iran by foot.

Take a peek at the trailer for “Alone through Iran – 1144 miles of trust,” a documentary about Kristina Paltén, a lone Swedish woman, who wanted to challenge her own and others prejudices against Islam by running across Iran.

“I will tell people about the incredible kindness I have met.” — Kristina Paltén.

One Son’s Creative Love Letter to His Adventure Diva Mum

April 3, 2016 in , by Sue Braiden

Alex and Eva -- Looking for Adam

Alex Lyngaas loves his mum. He loves her so much that he wants to help her find the love of her life. Over the course of a year he had been filming her, but until last May, she had no idea why. 69-year-old adventure diva Eva could be any of us: a woman in act two, living life solo, with someone who cares about us wanting more for us. Take a peek at the moment Eva discovers what her son has been up to, then c’mon back here and weigh in! What would YOU do if you were Eva? Would you embrace the unconventional adventure that someone who cared about you set you on? C’mon over and join us at the kitchen table, and share your thoughts!

How do you let go of drama?

March 31, 2016 in , , by Sue Braiden

How do you let go of drama?

“How do you let go of drama? Don’t treat yourself so gingerly; you can let go of stuff. Sometimes it takes three breaths instead of two to do it, but you can do it. Be a little tougher and don’t cling to stuff. People go around carrying everybody’s stuff all of the time. I just pick it up and put it down. Pick it up and put it down. That doesn’t mean I’m not compassionate, it doesn’t mean I don’t love people. But holding onto people’s suffering is not compassionate… for them or for you.” – Ram Dass.

What do you get when you turn James Bond into a woman? An Adventure Diva nearly banned from network tv …

July 16, 2015 in , by Sue Braiden

Miss Fisher's Murder Mysteries -- and an Adventure Diva double standard.

Okay, ladies, I’m about to stir the pot with a little Adventure Diva debate:

What do you get when you turn James Bond into a woman? In this case, 1920’s fictional Aussie sleuth, Phryne Fisher, and attempts to ban her from network television.

Where Bond is considered a man’s man, a suave and almost universal role model for men of adventure, lauded for his bedroom prowess, you might be surprised to learn what happens when you flip the gender switch.

What are you afraid of? (Not much after watching 82-year-old nurse-turned-action-hero, Kay D’Arcy!)

April 20, 2015 in , , , , by Sue Braiden

What are you afraid of? Not much after watching 82-year-old nurse-turned-action-hero, Kay D’Arcy!

Ten years ago if you had asked me what I was afraid of, I would have told you: heights, a world chocolate shortage, and snakes.

Today? Getting old, getting sick, being alone, being irrelevant, peeing my pants and dying.

Aging has a funny way of shifting the lens. (And yes, dignity is often one of the first things to go).

When we understand what we are afraid of, we also understand what we need, and that is the key to asset building.

There are all kinds of clichés I could apply to this (things like “what we fear we give power”, and it would be true), but instead of waxing poetic, I’ve decided I’m going to take that litany of self-conjured horrors and turn it on it’s head. I’m going to turn it into the best damned fuel for a bucket list. Ever.

Trading places. How asking one simple question can give a whole new perspective.

September 2, 2014 in , , by Sue Braiden

Trading places. How asking one simple question can give a whole new perspective.

Needs can be such bothersome things. Sometimes feeding one comes at the expense of another.

We’re creatures of habit. We love dwelling in our comfort zones, even when it’s no longer a smart thing to do.

So how do we find the courage to break out of unhealthy behaviours?

Try asking this one simple question:

If it was my daughter/sister/best friend, what would I tell her to do?

Have you ever been in a bad relationship that you just couldn’t shake? Men, chocolate, alcohol, cigarettes, a toxic friendship … you go ahead and fill in the blank. (Okay, so maybe not chocolate 😉 )

Detaching can be an awesome tool for gaining a little much needed perspective.

When -we- are part of the equation, seeing things clearly can be almost impossible. In our hearts we already know the right thing to do, (our instincts are rarely wrong) but human nature comes bundled with “attachment,” and that can be a tricky thing to sort out.

By stepping back from the situation, effectively removing ourselves from it, it’s easier to jettison emotion right out of the mix.

If we were to watch someone we loved doing the very thing we are doing now, and know to be an unhealthy or self-destructive behaviour, wouldn’t we want to help them make a change?

We need to learn to treat ourselves like a cherished friend. Take five minutes first thing in the morning to sit quietly in a sunny window with a cup of tea, and have a chat with yourself. What do you want to give yourself the courage to do? What do you love about yourself that can help you be strong and resilient in those tough moments? Who do we trust most to share this with, and to be supportive without judgement? (Allies are important when we’re facing really difficult choices, especially on those days when we’re feeling weak and full of doubt).

Do you have a secret weapon?

What kinds of things do you find most helpful when you’re trying to make a really difficult change in your life?

Why not put your elbows on the kitchen table and talk about it? Chances are you’ve got some wisdom that a sister Adventure Diva will really appreciate, while tapping into some great ideas others are sharing too!

Could you survive being lost in the woods? Take Mother Nature Network’s quiz to find out …

August 28, 2014 in , by Sue Braiden

Could you survive being lost in the woods?

You’ve decided to head out for a hike in a beautiful forest. You’re enjoying the walk until you notice the trail has disappeared — and you’re thoroughly lost.

Do you know what to do next?

Click the pic to take the quiz and see if you would make it in a survival situation! Then to join us at the Kitchen Table to share your own ideas about cultivating safe adventures …

What if this is THAT moment? On gutchecks and living life on purpose.

July 1, 2014 in , by Sue Braiden

Last night my son and his girlfriend were hit by a drunk driver. My heart jumped into my throat when I got the news. It’s a mother’s worst nightmare, to get that call. You play it over in your head a hundred times when they’re out there beyond the reach of your arms, having to admit that you cannot protect them from so many things.

How does it end? A life snuffed out? More ruined?

Your head is going a thousand miles an hour, living through every horrifying scenario, making bargains with whatever higher power you pray to or hope might be there to listen: just let them be okay, and I promise to do/be (… and this is where you fill in the blank).

Have you ever made that bargain? Clutching your stomach with the wind knocked out of you? That moment where time actually does stand still?

How does it end?

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